LEARN TO SAY HOW YOU FEEL

We are human beings. We think we are too smart. And that’s the problem right now which I am gonna talk about. We think we are smart but reality is that we aren’t and the problem is we think too much.

When we were little babies we used to ask for everything using hand gestures and our gibberish undeveloped language even though it didn’t made any sense to us but the whole point here is that back then we know that if we want anything then we need to ask for it. We knew that our parents not gonna read our mind and find out by themselves. We have to tell them that ourselves and this way of communicating always worked. I can say we had a lot more sense when we were little than what we have now.

As we grow up our thinking changes. We tend to become so called smart but on the way we become the entire opposite. We become dumb when it comes to relationships and I will tell you why

few days back my friend called me and told me that he will come to my place to visit me on Sunday and i was so happy and so eager to meet him. but sunday passed and e didnt came.i called him the next day to ask why he didnt make it and i couldnt believe what he told me

"oh man sorry but i had a urgent work to do and i meant to call you but i thought you could understand that some work must have come my way"

and i was thinking like how could i understand? i am not a psychic. its ok you got work to do but atleast call me and tell me you are not coming instead of just assuming that i will know it somehow..i was so angry that we all are doing the same. just assuming and assuming .not thinking about what other person might be thinking.

there are only two answers in this world YES or NO.

there is no " maybe" or " i will see" or "let me think"..its either yes or no..that's it!!. either you want something or you don't. don't make excuses because that can only hurt someone..

We now have this absurd idea that other person should be able to understand how we feel and that’s a stupid idea. We always say that I love my mother , I love my father and actually never in person tell this thing to their face  because we think that they already know and had the idea that their son or daughter love them..

 

A girl or a boy who has crush on someone can infatuate over the other person for over long time but don’t have the courage to tell how they feel because we want the other person to somehow find out by themselves

A boy calls her friend and she tells her that her mood is off but don’t know why. Boy tries very hard to calm her but she keeps telling her that she is not in mood of talking but in reality she wants him to help her but also wants him to find out whats in her mind by himself

And the worst example. A boyfriend and girlfiend broke up without giving a proper reason or giving it a reason at all thinking that the other person can understand.. guess what it doesn’t work that way. No one can understand what you are telling unless you don’t tell yourself

Why we do things based on assumptions. Breaking promises without giving a reason ,just assuming that everyone can understand what you did and why you did. Our cheezy dialogues ruining our relations every day. Its our fault

I think we are doing a bad thing here. These movies these assumptions they are to be blame for all the lies, the heartache, the pain. People should be able to tell themselves how they feel. It’s a responsibility. Be like that infant who is able to tell what he wanna say . don’t be smart , be responsible, be dumb but atleast don’t go on living your life based on assumptions and the let go attitude

Don’t learn to just talk…..learn to say!!!

DO NOT MOVE ON...

i have always heard people say " move on with life and never look back". people change with time and they say so like its a good thing and according to me its the worst.

i am not the most popular guy on facebook and there is hardly anyone who chats with me. so there i was staring hopelessly on the fb home page waiting for someone to say hi but after a while i realized thats not gonna happen.  i have like more than 100 friends but not even a single hi make me sad. so i thought why not see my timeline and there i was again looking at what i have been posting over these recent years

as i went to my first post which i made like 5 years back , i was shocked to see the replies i had . i was a popular guy back then . my friends remebered me and liked me. we all were so close and so innocent back then. there were status updates which i had written almost everyday on my wall. and almost every status yielded me like atleast 20 replies . hell i had many girls as my friends back then and i also did chat with them.

it was wierd and shocking to me as i cant do any of this stuff now and cant beleive how self satisfied and confident i was back then. back then i was HAPPY
not me but evry friend in my friendlist were different back then and i remember how i had promised myself that i will not change but eventually i did/

people often say that we change for good. they call it moving on with life. but what kind of life?
we had became materialistic.,ignorent. and all our inocence is like gone ..

no one likes to think about past bit not me .right now i am feeling so bad about what kind of person i have became and everyone else has became.

dont change.. change is always bad. instead of moving forward . keep thinking about your past and remember how you were because even though you think yu r now better than before . trust me the reality is deep down you were better before and its aour duty to look back and remember our past and not just ignore it because it will help you remain the same honest sweet person you were before.

our society is bad. it pushes you to become the person you are not and its under your control if you gonna let yourself be controlled. be the person you were before but in better way . keep moving ahead in life but keep your past with you. remember the mistakes you have made in the past, the friends you just lost because you never tried to contact them. people who love you and if you dont talk to them now then you are gonna lose them forever and then you will gonna regret it your whole life. trust me as i had one the same mistake

so dont just keep going ahead in life..
stay. think for a second and try to be the good person you were before 

WHY I THINK INDIA IS NOT A GREAT COUNTRY

me and my parents were watching cricket match on the tv this afternoon and at one point our national anthem started playing in the background and my mom said to me

“I am proud to be an Indian. India is the best country”

And I was like …yeah!!sure

Then my mom suddenly realized that i don’t share the same feeling and all of a sudden there was a long arguments between me , my mother which was later joined by my father about how our india  is the greatest country an since I was against this , I eventually gave up and went to my room.

My mom and dad didn’t even listened to what I have to say so now I am going to tell you my thoughts on why I think india is not great

India is often referred to as a developing country and I don’t see the point in it. What is developing means??

If building huge skyscrapers and increasing our economy is considered developing then sure it is developing but I guess its not that simple. Developing means doing things for our people not try to match other countries economy

Indians have a very bad habit of showing off. We like to show off. With our phone, our branded clothes and every little thing in our life, we want it big and cool than others.

India is not developing because all we do is blame blame and blame.  We blame someone for every failure we face and want to take credit for success. We blame our state MP for state problems ,for all the bumps on the road to drinking water problem, further the MP blames higher authority and further everyone blames the PM. No one blames himself or herself . the reality is that we are responsible too for failures .. I am too . but we never accept it because we are taught to believe that everything is good and fine but if don’t accept that we are failing then we cant succeed.

Our system is corrupt , there are rape cases ,murders and hell lot of problems and what we do is blame. We blame ministers for corruption, blame police for any rape case and never even thinks about that we are very much responsible for that because its our society and we are part of it

At every corner at every city there is someone who is saying “india is going towards disaster. There is nothing that can be done”. If we keeps thinking that then one day it will be true. We just want to be like American’s . we know everything about western culture and tries to be like them.. its not bad to be cool but doing something for our own country is what really matters

Rich is getting more rich and poor is getting more poor. That’s what always happened in india and it will always be like this . people say there is hope because PM will do something for us . hell why wait for them. We should do something for us not blame someone and depend on others.

I know my words are boring and its easy to say such words and really I don’t care but I know one thing that just believing in this fact that india is best is crap. India is not best but I believe that we have the capability to be the best but we cant unless we don’t  start believing that india is not great and have problems instead of just blindly believing that it doesn’t. 

HOW HUMAN ARE WE?

So its middle of the night with clock striking almost 2,  and i have just watched the most incredibly moving film i have ever seen and believe me i see a lot of movies. so what was the movie about?

movie was called "the elephant man". it was made in 1980 and i usually dont watch movies so old but well i had nothing to download so i downloaded it and now after watching it ,i could see why on the internet , this movie was so appreciated

it was about a man name joseph who suffered from a birth disease which had made her entire body look like that of an elephant.  it was shown how harsh people were towards him how hard his life was and underneath al that physical deformity , was a sweet and caring man. i could say without being ashamed that this movie made me cry literally. i would recommend everyone to spare at least two hours of their busy  life and watch this movie if possible and believe me if you are not moved after seeing this movie than you are not human

so what this story taught me since this movie was based on true life of a man . well we all see people with deformities in our life and do we really think about them?

we say god had done bad to them but what are we doing for them. we are laughing at them , making fun of them, or most commonly ignoring them. and believe me it is true.

a boy lives in my neighbourhood and he suffer from autism and i know it because i have heard about it but no one from my colony did. even his parents dont care too much and have accepted him for what he is. 

he is often made the topic of fun and i have seen people laughing at him and making fun of him not even having a slightest idea of what he must be feeling inside and i really want to help him but what i do..NOTHING

i am just ignoring like everyone else. 

as we grow mature we learn to ignore. what that shows? it just shows cruelty. of course you are not making fun of anyone but you r not doing anything at all.

don't ignore these people.they are part of us. they are just like everyone else but less fortunate. we often thinks that god is not fair to us , but if we think really then we will understand that we have more than enough.

love each another and be human.. in this world humanity is what the future is about. ignoring is not the answer.