PEOPLE KNOW WHY THEY ARE CHANGING
the one thing which i have heard most of the times in my life is this thing, that i dont know why i have changed, i dont know whats goin on with me and i have no clue about it, i am sure everyone who is reading it must have heard it once in his or her life from someone ,well is it really true that we change? and is it really true that when it happens we have no idea why is it happening ?
well in my experience its not the case
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in reality people dont change at all, they remain the same, what we often take in as a change is the reversible process in which humans tend to start showing what their real personalities are, which they dont show in the starting, confused? let me elaborate by giving an example
you decided to take a room with your best friend whom you know for very long time,, you hope that things will go well, we will have great time together , my friend is a great guy and we have greta fun together , so you start living with him, in the beginning everything is all good and exciting , you have a lot of fun, you two go to movies, eat together and what not but then the story takes turn
after a few months something about your friend seems odd, you start to see the not so nice habits and parts of personality which you somehow failed to see before, his or her way of sleeping, snoring, the way he or she dont clean dishes , and other chores,
its like somehow he or she has became another person or in the right sense ,changed!!
so the real question is, does that person really changed ?
answer is no,
humans dont change, we dont have the capability to change, but then how can you explain the above roommate dilemma
what happens is when we first meet someone we dont really show our true selves, we tend to show the nature we think is the most pleasing, most acceptable, since we all are somewhat in confusion regarding our real nature and personality,
we have been told from the start to always show the behavior which show us as kind and friendly even if it means hiding our true self, which even though is not a bad thing but also somehow biased
its true it takes time to know someone ,and sometimes really long time ,thats why most marriages dont work even love or arranged. we cant know about a person just by knowing him or her 15 minutes ,hell 15 days alone, it takes time, a lot of time to see if the two are compatible or not and if not then its best to let go and save both from heartbreak
so in the above roommate story, you thought your friend was great because thats what he or she was shoeing you all those years ,that side of his or her personality , but as you spend more time with her or him, you started to know better ,
people dont change , they just becomes who they really are
and we shouldnt blame them for it, since its for your benefit that they are showing their true self and then its your choice to either accept them for what they are or leave them for someone compatible ,
but make sure you make that less painful
the one thing which i have heard most of the times in my life is this thing, that i dont know why i have changed, i dont know whats goin on with me and i have no clue about it, i am sure everyone who is reading it must have heard it once in his or her life from someone ,well is it really true that we change? and is it really true that when it happens we have no idea why is it happening ?
well in my experience its not the case
'
in reality people dont change at all, they remain the same, what we often take in as a change is the reversible process in which humans tend to start showing what their real personalities are, which they dont show in the starting, confused? let me elaborate by giving an example
you decided to take a room with your best friend whom you know for very long time,, you hope that things will go well, we will have great time together , my friend is a great guy and we have greta fun together , so you start living with him, in the beginning everything is all good and exciting , you have a lot of fun, you two go to movies, eat together and what not but then the story takes turn
after a few months something about your friend seems odd, you start to see the not so nice habits and parts of personality which you somehow failed to see before, his or her way of sleeping, snoring, the way he or she dont clean dishes , and other chores,
its like somehow he or she has became another person or in the right sense ,changed!!
so the real question is, does that person really changed ?
answer is no,
humans dont change, we dont have the capability to change, but then how can you explain the above roommate dilemma
what happens is when we first meet someone we dont really show our true selves, we tend to show the nature we think is the most pleasing, most acceptable, since we all are somewhat in confusion regarding our real nature and personality,
we have been told from the start to always show the behavior which show us as kind and friendly even if it means hiding our true self, which even though is not a bad thing but also somehow biased
its true it takes time to know someone ,and sometimes really long time ,thats why most marriages dont work even love or arranged. we cant know about a person just by knowing him or her 15 minutes ,hell 15 days alone, it takes time, a lot of time to see if the two are compatible or not and if not then its best to let go and save both from heartbreak
so in the above roommate story, you thought your friend was great because thats what he or she was shoeing you all those years ,that side of his or her personality , but as you spend more time with her or him, you started to know better ,
people dont change , they just becomes who they really are
and we shouldnt blame them for it, since its for your benefit that they are showing their true self and then its your choice to either accept them for what they are or leave them for someone compatible ,
but make sure you make that less painful
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